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| **Is Love Really That Simple?** |
| 04.09.08 (3:47 pm) [edit] |
Just recently I had the unfortunate or fortunate
(I am not sure yet) experience to witness the disintegration of a close friend of mines' marriage
after being together for almost twenty-two(22)years.
Their outwardly appearance
seemed to make them the
seemingly perfect couple
with the beautiful home, the three(3) great looking
children and the two(2)car
garage but all was not well
in the Royal Court! For the longest time there was never one "iota" or indication of any major difficulties between them,
and being as close as I was to the both of them, one would think I would have noticed something not right.
Even the children showed no
signs whatsoever of anything amiss because they seemed so well adjusted to each other and their surroundings. It was only a short time ago when we were all living and laughing together as friends and now I could feel the strain and stress from not only their marriage coming apart but also our intimate friendship as well. As I
expected both of them came to me separately for counsel as to what they could do to "reconcile" what differences that originally created such distance between them.
Now being the private person that they assumed I
was to them, they asked me
to keep their discussion with me confidential in its' entirety which of course I would have anyways.Feeling that I was about to be placed in harms' way if I did offer up any solutions I made the difficult decision to
not participate in assisting them in settling their differences. I just felt that if anything went errant between them due to any influence from my advice then I would pay heavy consequences for just being a friend, and I was not about to play that
"tune" again.(been there, done that....no thank you).
After withdrawing from possible calamity I now feel tremendous guilt for not being there for them or either one of them individually and of course now my relationship with both of them is on the skids! Should I attempt to enter into this scenario again to "save" my friendship with them or should I just "move" on to other friendships? What would you do or better yet what do you think?
Timm17
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posted by: auntconi (reply)
post date: 04.09.08 (4:13 pm)
Wow!
If they can't respect that you do not want to get in the middle of their problems, then I would say "move on" ... their loss!
Your loss, too! But if they do not respect you and your feelings on this issue, were they really the 'good' friends you thought?
Too bad it has to be like this!
posted by: mimi (reply)
post date: 04.09.08 (5:04 pm)
i completely agree with aunt coni...xoxoxo